I have found that when I finally landed that great job, my boss drove me crazy. When I lost weight, I still judged myself. In fact, I still thought I was fat. When I received a lot of money, I still wanted more. When I found the perfect house, it soon became too small. When the perfect man came into my life, I found faults in him. Actually, what I found is that my negative voice would never be at a loss for things to find wrong. It would always find something lacking even if everything was so right.
There is no need to respond to your negative voice – ever.
It is a negative voice. That is its job. It’s not going to suddenly turn positive. But it is difficult because we are all conditioned to heartily listen to our negative voices and try to fix whatever problems that it ruminates on.
Instead, create a positive voice. That would be fake, you say? That’s okay. Let it seem fake. Your negative voice is also fake, but you have learned to believe it. Every day, create some positive thoughts, positions, goals, outlooks, and beliefs about yourself, others, and the world. Repeat them over and over because your negative voice does also. That’s how it gets your attention. You can use the same tactic.
Stop listening to your negative voices. Stop taking them seriously. Stop telling everyone all about them over and over. Stop believing in their value. Stop believing them.